it's okay to hurt your parents feelings
I remember my sister's telling me that one time our biological maternal unit left them for 3 days and they didn't know where she went and there was no food in the apartment. And another time she locked them out of the apartment to force them to go socialize. Didn't check in with them. Didn't know if they were feeling unsafe or not. Just withdrew access to their living space without notice for an undeterminable amount of time. At some point, I told her that she shouldn't have had children because she doesn't know what to do with herself let alone other human beings. One time we were arguing and I don't remember exactly what she said but my response was "don't talk to me like I chose to be here. You and that man made this decision for me and now you have to deal with it." That was the end of the argument. My sisters and I got really good at telling her off, but I think I'm the only one that hurt her feelings - because as far as I know I&#
